My business partner, Kate, and I sponsored a table at Bridal Revival, an event where brides could get all dolled up and rock their wedding gowns again. And rock the wedding gown, I did.
But here’s the funny part.
For an entire month leading up to the event, I avoided trying on my dress. As in, pretended like it wasn’t an integral part of this event. When anyone would ask, I’d make a self-deprecating joke about how the dress wouldn’t fit because it had been 8 years and I’d had a baby and, well, you get the point.
All of that to protect my fragile ego in the likelihood that the dress wouldn’t zip.
Because I was convinced it wouldn’t zip.
Two days before the event, I finally tried the dress on. Up until the very end, when The Husband zipped me in, I told him that it wasn’t going to work. Even as he was reassuring me that it would. Even as he was zipping it up without problem.
Here’s the thing: all of that worrying, avoiding, and excuse making was done out of fear and the preconceived beliefs I carry around about myself. Yes, this time it was body specific, but really it’s about everything in life.
How many times do I stop myself from doing something, tell myself that it will never work, or blame myself for something that may or may not be true? And how many times to do I put that same bullshit on someone else? I’m guessing it’s more than I care to admit.
So this reminder is for me (and anyone else that needs to hear it today):
Our perceptions are not reality.
They are simply stories that we carry around, about ourselves and the world, that may or may not be true. It’s time to challenge those stories and create a more complete picture.