With 52 posts written and another 48 to go, I am officially over the halfway hump of my 100 Days of Blogging challenge. I’ve been thinking a lot about the journey and the things that I’ve been learning along the way.
Here are three of the biggest realizations that I’ve had so far:
The stressful days talk louder.
I used to have a friend in high school that we would tease because he thought that saying something the loudest meant that he won the argument. I’ve been thinking about that concept a lot in relation to the stories I’ve chosen to share to date.
The stressful days have been pretty loud, with situations and emotions playing on repeat in my head. Which, in turn, makes them ripe for writing a post. The good days, the silly moments, the fits of laughter … they are softer and so they sit there, hanging out in the background, waiting for me to take notice.
I hate to admit that I don’t always remember them, or that they get brushed off as “the way it’s supposed to be” while the bad moments get all the attention. But that’s the way it goes sometimes.
Giving a voice to experiences, both good and bad, is important.
I learned early on in my journey that being open and honest about the challenges I faced in my life was incredibly powerful — for myself and those around me. Whether it was in sharing my reluctance in becoming a vegetarian way back when, being diagnosed with food sensitivities, having difficulty getting pregnant, having a miscarriage, finally getting pregnant, and everything that has followed since.
Giving a voice to the struggle and learning that you are not alone in any of it is an absolute GIFT. It may take going through something to fully appreciate the gravity of that knowingness, or the bravery that it takes to put yourself out there, but it’s always worth it. I can’t even begin to list all of the times that I have personally benefited from others sharing their story, though am betting it happens on a daily (if not hourly) basis. And I’ve been told the same thing when I talk about my journey.
There is power in giving and receiving validation. The ability to process our experiences is empowering, particularly when we can find new ways to deal with it all. And being able to find a community of others to walk alongside us? That shit is invaluable.
Perfectionism is dangerous.
I mean, I definitely knew this already, but have experienced it at an entirely new level in trying to write something every day. I set the bar pretty high for myself, particularly when it comes to blogging and creating content. So when things don’t turn out as planned or blog stats don’t meet some impossible standard that I’ve set for myself, I get frustrated and tell myself that it’s all for nothing.
It requires a lot of work to be able to redirect that energy and create a more balanced internal dialogue around success. So while recognition is the first step, I know I still have a ways to go before I can pat myself on the back and say mission accomplished.
In the meantime, I’m trying to notice when the anxiety starts to creep in and I begin to obsessively track blog stats. And then I force myself to leave the phone in the other room and take a breather.
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I’m excited to see what the next 48 days of this journey hold; what nuggets of wisdom are waiting around the corner and the ways in which that newfound knowledge will stretch me. I am really proud of the work I’ve done already and know that this experience has already left a big mark on my life and my writing.
Was there anything that I missed? Any patterns or nuggets that you’ve witnessed that I didn’t mention? I’d love to hear what it’s been like to watch this journey unfold.