You’re too cute to help.

The Babe and I went on an adventure to the grocery store this afternoon. We needed to a.) get out of the house, b.) pick up some smoothie making supplies and c.) get a truckload of carbs for The Husband, who’s been down for the count all week.

I only had to bribe her with one video (FROZEN, FROZEN) to get in the car.

Getting her into the store was easy. She was totally content wearing her favorite blue hat and hot pink heart sunglasses paired, of course, with her kitty dress, floral pants, and blue sparkly shoes. (I wish I could have snapped a picture of the entire ensemble, it was a masterpiece.)

Walking around, The Babe worked her magic.

She chose bananas, sampled juice, helped me pick out fruit, and offered to push the cart for me. She even wanted to carry a jug of juice, because that’s what big helpers do.

By the time we made it to the check out line, The Babe was in perfect form. She sauntered up to the check out line, holding Mama’s hand while snacking on a mini bagel. The gentleman at the check out line smiled when he realized what was about to step into his line.

We finally made it over and grabbed the bags from underneath the cart, while he began ringing up our items. The Babe, being the great helper that she is, wanted to be involved and shouted, I HELP, I HELP. I was about to help her pick up and item or two to hand over, but before we could even pretend, the man said: You’re too cute to help.

My mouth opened.

And then closed.

I had words to say — some less appropriate than others — but they clearly weren’t coming out.

What in the ever loving fuck is that about, being too cute to help?? I don’t care how cute, ugly, stylish, frumpy, wealthy, poor, smart, dumb, gay, straight, or anything else you are. You are never too ANYTHING to help.

Also, why on earth would you squash that kind of attitude in a toddler? Particularly one that LOVES to help, LOVES to be involved, and LOVES to get her hands in things. All qualities that I absolutely LOVE about her.

In the end, all I could do was shake my head in disbelief. And make a mental note to myself to never stand in his line again.


More about Emily Levenson

Emily Levenson is a therapist turned holistic health coach, podcaster, meditation encourager, and seeker of everyday magic. Emily recently kicked off her third #The100DayProject, focusing her efforts on daily meditation.

6 thoughts on “You’re too cute to help.

  1. Amanda Rosen

    I don’t know what it is about grocery store cashiers always putting their foot in their mouth, but I’ve had my fair share of wtf moments similar to this while waiting to pay for my groceries.

    Too cute to help. As if.


    1. Emily Levenson

      Yeah. Maybe it’s because they are forced to make small talk all day long. Who knows. That was one of the worst, though.


  2. Meg Campbell

    "What in the ever loving fuck is that about, being too cute to help?? "

    ^^best line EVER.


    1. Emily Levenson



  3. Cara Crowley

    It’s astonishing what people feel is appropriate to say to girls and women. What’s more astonighing though is that he probably hasn’t and won’t dawn on him why that comment was offensive and uncalled for.

    We used to have a little girl in our neighborhood that sold lemonade and an Assembly Member who lived in the neighborhood came by to purchase some lemonade and gave the little girl a dollar when the price was 50 cents. She said that she needed to give him change and he replied, that it was ok because she was cute. Luckily, her mother that was sitting outside with her got so upset and insisted that he take his change. Which he did but I’m not sure he ever realized why she was so upset. It’s so ingrained in our culture that people aren’t even always aware that they’re doing it.


    1. Emily Levenson

      Yeah. It sneaks up on you when you least expect it.

      And sometimes, it’s so ingrained, that it doesn’t even sound bad. Until you think about it later and realize what someone said…


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.